I would like to share with you some of the highlights of our book club meeting on Wednesday night. We always have great conversations and learn such valuable information from each other and the book, or in this case, the podcast we are featuring.
Here are some of the insights from Jada PInkett Smith and Jay Shetty:
We all have a story and we are sticking to it. We believe ideas about ourselves that have been planted in our mind from childhood and we tell these stories repeatedly. We need to change our story because most of what we believe about ourselves isn't true. Without this realization, change will not happen.
Our story has been created through the Ego - “I am the best at living my pain, better than you. I am unique and alone in this experience.”
We are not the only ones with a story with pain, suffering or hardship. Everyone has suffered in their life. This adversity is meant to help you find the giant within yourself. It is meant to help you grow and develop as a person.
There is a warrior inside of all of us but there are times when we have to lay the warrior down as warriors can be cruel and unloving. Fighting or defending ourselves doesn't always help our relationships and can take us further away from our connection to our own heart. We are no longer in a space of love and compassion.
We can ask ourselves, do our actions coincide with our beliefs and morals. When we are reactive we hurt ourselves as well as others.
You are ultimately responsible for what and who you bring into your life. You teach people how to treat you and what you expect in relationships.
Each relationship exists to show us the shadows within ourselves. Relationships show us who we are, and to resolve our childhood issues. Once you are able to walk into the mindfields of the two traumatized kids you are, you begin a spiritual relationship versus a romantic one.
We can ask ourselves what did my parents teach me that I am projecting onto my partner. Jay Shetty’s Mom seemed to be able to read his mind and then he expected his wife to be able to do the same thing.
Self love is the key to spiritual growth and development but we have to love the ugly parts of ourselves or what Jada calls the shadows, as well as the good parts. As part of the process we have to let go of the ego. We have to look at ourselves and take responsibility.
We look to have people in our lives who confirm who we think we are. - to confirm our story. We need to surround ourselves with people who are honest with us.
Love is cultivated through stillness and meditation. This is when we see our trauma patterns and connect with a higher source.
Jada ends the interview explaining true love which she says is not red but blue. Calm, gentle, still and unconditional. Sounds like a very nice place to be.
If you watched the video from last week's Newsletter about 6 Phase Meditation you heard how this practice has brought joy to Rebecca Austin’s life ( wiseangels11.com). I have only been practicing 6 Phase Meditation for a week but have found it very powerful. Imagine if the whole world started their day this way!
Here are some details about the 6 phases so that you can incorporate them into your own life:
Stage 1 - Kindness/Compassion. In Vishen’s words this phase involves, “Expressing the intention of moving from judgement to caring, from isolation to connection, from indifference or dislike to understanding...This phase is about feeling connected to other people and having a sense of compassion towards them.” In yoga terms, I feel this phase is spreading light and love within ourselves and then out to others.
Stage 2 - Gratitude. The practice of gratitude has been scientifically proven to improve mood, energy, creates higher emotional intelligence, lessons depression and anxiety and influences overall happiness. Incorporate this practice into your life by thinking each day of 3 things you are grateful for in your personal life, your business life and in yourself.
Stage 3 - Forgiveness. This is important and life-changing. In this phase you must make the conscious decision to forgive anyone you feel has done you wrong, that you have feelings of ill-will towards or even anyone you hold a grudge against or are judgemental towards. Holding onto these feelings means you are carrying around negative energy that can affect your mood, health, and feelings of loving compassion towards the world.
Stage 4 - Vision of the Future. Imagine how you would like your future to look 3 years from now. Imagine each part of your life including your love life, your health, your body, your career or business. It's called Future Dreaming. The idea is not to brood over how it will happen but to see the happiness that these successes will bring. This phase is about momentum.
Stage 5 - Intentions In this phase you set your intentions for the day by picturing your perfect day and evening. See your day like a mini movie unfolding exactly as you would like it to be starting with a perfect morning and ending with a sound sleep.
Stage 6 - Blessing. In this phase you turn to whatever higher power you believe in and ask for support. A technique that helps you is to imagine a powerful light coming down from above surrounding you and bathing you in endless energy to support your work.
These meditation phases or mental exercises can take you 5 minutes or 10 minutes depending on how detailed you want to be. You can do it sitting or lying down, walking or moving. Try it for a week and see if it brings you joy and happiness as well.
As we have been consumed with protecting ourselves from Covid and again enjoying our parks, beaches, gardens and golf course I would like to remind everyone to protect themselves against ticks. It's important to enjoy nature and the outdoors but do so with safety in mind.
Lyme is difficult to diagnose and treat and its symptoms can linger for years. Lyme Disease is on the rise because the black-legged ticks that spread the disease are more prevalent. Reports indicate that tick borne diseases have more than doubled in the last 12 years. Climate change, mild winters and expansion of the number of animals that carry ticks are several reasons for the increase.
I have done a fair bit of research on Lyme as I have several clients with Lyme and would like to share some insights about the disease itself:
Here are some tips on how to prevent getting bitten:
This is just some information regarding a very serious disease that is much more rampant than people realize. Please, first protect yourself but if you do get bit, get help beyond the traditional antibiotic approach.
Susanne Jakubowski is a holistic nutritionist, yoga teacher, Thai Yoga Therapist, and cancer survivor.