I would like to share with you some of the highlights of our book club meeting on Wednesday night. We always have great conversations and learn such valuable information from each other and the book, or in this case, the podcast we are featuring.
Here are some of the insights from Jada PInkett Smith and Jay Shetty:
We all have a story and we are sticking to it. We believe ideas about ourselves that have been planted in our mind from childhood and we tell these stories repeatedly. We need to change our story because most of what we believe about ourselves isn't true. Without this realization, change will not happen.
Our story has been created through the Ego - “I am the best at living my pain, better than you. I am unique and alone in this experience.”
We are not the only ones with a story with pain, suffering or hardship. Everyone has suffered in their life. This adversity is meant to help you find the giant within yourself. It is meant to help you grow and develop as a person.
There is a warrior inside of all of us but there are times when we have to lay the warrior down as warriors can be cruel and unloving. Fighting or defending ourselves doesn't always help our relationships and can take us further away from our connection to our own heart. We are no longer in a space of love and compassion.
We can ask ourselves, do our actions coincide with our beliefs and morals. When we are reactive we hurt ourselves as well as others.
You are ultimately responsible for what and who you bring into your life. You teach people how to treat you and what you expect in relationships.
Each relationship exists to show us the shadows within ourselves. Relationships show us who we are, and to resolve our childhood issues. Once you are able to walk into the mindfields of the two traumatized kids you are, you begin a spiritual relationship versus a romantic one.
We can ask ourselves what did my parents teach me that I am projecting onto my partner. Jay Shetty’s Mom seemed to be able to read his mind and then he expected his wife to be able to do the same thing.
Self love is the key to spiritual growth and development but we have to love the ugly parts of ourselves or what Jada calls the shadows, as well as the good parts. As part of the process we have to let go of the ego. We have to look at ourselves and take responsibility.
We look to have people in our lives who confirm who we think we are. - to confirm our story. We need to surround ourselves with people who are honest with us.
Love is cultivated through stillness and meditation. This is when we see our trauma patterns and connect with a higher source.
Jada ends the interview explaining true love which she says is not red but blue. Calm, gentle, still and unconditional. Sounds like a very nice place to be.
Susanne Jakubowski is a holistic nutritionist, yoga teacher, Thai Yoga Therapist, and cancer survivor.